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The Top 5 Regrets In Life By Those About to Die | Addicted 2 Success

Thanks to @scott for this one. Everyday, I have to decide how much time to spend at work versus with my family. Finding a balance I can live with is the challenge. With Emma growing up so fast, I worry it will be one of my regrets at the end.

Its natural to have regrets at the end, and I think we could all take this list to heart. That said, these common regrets, at one extreme, could be boiled down to "I wish life wasn't so hard. I wish I didn't have to choose between what I loved and what I wanted versus what was required of me to ensure my family and I survives and thrives."

The American Scholar: Solitude and Leadership - William Deresiewicz

I don’t like work—no man does—but I like what is in the work,—the chance to find yourself. Your own reality—for yourself, not for others—what no other man can ever know.

This is a great essay. Above is a quote from "Heart of Darkness" that resonated with me. I can relate to that a lot and is one of the reasons I work hard.

There are a number of points that really hit home.. and sometimes I wonder if I embody too many of these traits: "That’s really the great mystery about bureaucracies. Why is it so often that the best people are stuck in the middle and the people who are running things—the leaders—are the mediocrities? Because excellence isn’t usually what gets you up the greasy pole. What gets you up is a talent for maneuvering. Kissing up to the people above you, kicking down to the people below you. Pleasing your teachers, pleasing your superiors, picking a powerful mentor and riding his coattails until it’s time to stab him in the back. Jumping through hoops. Getting along by going along. Being whatever other people want you to be, so that it finally comes to seem that, like the manager of the Central Station, you have nothing inside you at all. Not taking stupid risks like trying to change how things are done or question why they’re done. Just keeping the routine going."

He also touches upon multitasking, media, etc. and the need for one to be alone, not influenced by outside sources, and think..

Five For Fighting - 100 Years Lyrics

I'm 15 for a moment
Caught in between 10 and 20
And I'm just dreaming
Counting the ways to where you are
I'm 22 for a moment
She feels better than ever
And we're on fire
Making our way back from Mars
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy and time to lose
15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live
I'm 33 for a moment
Still the man, but you see I'm a they
A kid on the way
A family on my mind
I'm 45 for a moment
The sea is high
And I'm heading into a crisis
Chasing the years of my life
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy, Time to lose yourself
Within a morning star
15 I'm all right with you
15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live
Half time goes by
Suddenly you’re wise
Another blink of an eye
67 is gone
The sun is getting high
We're moving on...
I'm 99 for a moment
Dying for just another moment
And I'm just dreaming
Counting the ways to where you are
15 there's still time for you
22 I feel her too
33 you’re on your way
Every day's a new day...
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy and time to choose
Hey 15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live

It was 17 for me - the most freedom, the least responsibility, and all the time in the world. Now not so much, but I've got a lot and I'm so very thankful.

Time to pause and take it all in,
I won't be back here again.

Aldous Huxley's Birthday Today

This got pass around at work today.  I liked it and thought I'd share it, too.

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In today’s Writer’s Almanac (link:  http://writersalmanac.publicradio.org/ ) there was a quote from a 1985 book, Amusing Ourselves to Death, by Neil Postman, comparing George Orwell to Aldous Huxley:

"What Orwell feared were those who would ban books. What Huxley feared was that there would be no reason to ban a book, for there would be no one who wanted to read one. Orwell feared those who would deprive us of information. Huxley feared those who would give us so much that we would be reduced to passivity and egoism. Orwell feared that the truth would be concealed from us. Huxley feared the truth would be drowned in a sea of irrelevance. Orwell feared we would become a captive culture. Huxley feared we would become a trivial culture. ... In short, Orwell feared that what we fear will ruin us. Huxley feared that our desire will ruin us."

Today, I Adopt a Zen Attitude: How to Have a Zen Attitude - wikiHow

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Zen is a form of meditation with a focus on the mindful awareness of the present moment. In common lexicon, the phrase "being zen" or "having a zen attitude" has come to mean viewing life calmly with equanimity. By this definition, being Zen is about doing right for the mind, body, and soul. It can help you relax, have a positive outlook on life, and find a higher plane of spiritual worth.

Sometimes you have to just let go and and look at life with a bit of indifference. My troubles are small, my fortunes are great. Let what will be, be. Hand wringing and worrying will do more harm than good. I shall meditate upon this while I review some code and await other, more personal, news.

What Motivates Us

Some of my colleagues linked to these RSA videos recently via yammer.

The first video, "Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us", rang true with me.  In the presentation they talked about how independent studies (Carnegie Mellon and MIT)  have shown that, after a point, monetary reward does not make people more productive in jobs that require cognitive skill.  In fact, higher monetary rewards produced worse performance.  It seems the best motivator is to pay people enough so the issue of money is "off the table."  This lets people think about the work.  Once money is out of the way there are three factors that lead to better performance: autonomy, mastery, and purpose. Amen!  Watch the video:

The second video, "Smile or Die," talks about realistic thinking and how a serious lack of it has been doing a lot of damage.  This video is just good for everyone to watch and maybe reflect on their attitudes.  Hopelessly optimistic is just as bad pessimistic.  Somewhere in between is something that approximates the truth and from that a measured response.